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We all know from experience

that we can’t change other people,

yet most of us have a tendency to try.

This is because we naturally feel the need

to do something to change situations

that we find troubling.

It often doesn’t occur to us

that the best way to create change

is not to try to convince others to change

but to change ourselves.

When we make adjustments from within,

we become role models for others,

and leading by example

is much more inspiring

than a lecture or an argument.

We sometimes look outside ourselves

for what’s wrong with the world,

but the outside world is really

just a mirror

reflecting us back to ourselves.

When we encounter


depression, fear—

we empower ourselves

by looking for its roots

inside of ourselves.

For example,

if you have a friend who is unreliable,

observe yourself and notice

if there are ways in which

you are unreliable.

You may be surprised to discover

that you have your own struggles

with this issue

in ways you weren’t able to see.

Once you own the issue for yourself,

you can begin to work for change

within yourself.

This will also

enable you to have more compassion

for your friend.

At the very least,

as you strive to become more reliable,

you will become more

of the person you want to be.

In the best-case scenario,

you will be an inspiration to others.

You can apply the same method to larger issues.

For example,

if there is something you see

in the larger world

that you would like to change—

let’s say, greed—

try taking responsibility

for changing it in yourself.

Instead of being angry

with those you see as greedy,

seek out the roots

of your own greed

and come to terms

with your power to transform it.

This may be the best way

to lead the world toward

greater moderation

and generosity.

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Different Ways of Navigating

We’re all in the same boat.

We just have different paddles,

and perhaps

we find ourselves on different rivers.

We all live in human bodies.

These are the vehicles

in which we move through our world.

We are all made of flesh, blood, and bone,

with brains, hearts, and lungs to power us.

Our paddles—

the tools we use to move through the world—


as do the bodies of water—

the environments—

in which we find ourselves.

Some of us use our high IQs

to get where we want to go.

Some of use our smiles,

others use kindness,

a gift with language,

or athletic ability.

Some of these qualities we were born with

and others are skills we have learned.

Considering this metaphor

in light of your own life

can be very enlightening.

What tools are you using

to get from point A to point B in your life?

Chances are,

you and the people you know

have used many different tools

in various combinations

throughout your lives

to get where you needed to go.

Just as with oars or paddles,

a balanced approach is best.

If you rely too much on one thing,

like beauty, to open doors,

you fail to be well-rounded

and you may eventually

lose your equilibrium.

And if you lose that one quality,

you have no paddle at all.

This is inspiration

to develop multiple tools

to navigate your world.

Some of us

may be moving along paths

that are like rushing rivers;

others may be on a large, still lake.

We have all felt, at one time or another,

tossed about on a stormy ocean.

Through all this, we are never really alone,

even though it might seem that way.

There is inspiration all around us

in the form of other people

making their way through the world,

in the very same boat.

Remember to look around you for role models,

companionship, and encouragement.


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