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We all know from experience

that we can’t change other people,

yet most of us have a tendency to try.

This is because we naturally feel the need

to do something to change situations

that we find troubling.

It often doesn’t occur to us

that the best way to create change

is not to try to convince others to change

but to change ourselves.

When we make adjustments from within,

we become role models for others,

and leading by example

is much more inspiring

than a lecture or an argument.

We sometimes look outside ourselves

for what’s wrong with the world,

but the outside world is really

just a mirror

reflecting us back to ourselves.

When we encounter


depression, fear—

we empower ourselves

by looking for its roots

inside of ourselves.

For example,

if you have a friend who is unreliable,

observe yourself and notice

if there are ways in which

you are unreliable.

You may be surprised to discover

that you have your own struggles

with this issue

in ways you weren’t able to see.

Once you own the issue for yourself,

you can begin to work for change

within yourself.

This will also

enable you to have more compassion

for your friend.

At the very least,

as you strive to become more reliable,

you will become more

of the person you want to be.

In the best-case scenario,

you will be an inspiration to others.

You can apply the same method to larger issues.

For example,

if there is something you see

in the larger world

that you would like to change—

let’s say, greed—

try taking responsibility

for changing it in yourself.

Instead of being angry

with those you see as greedy,

seek out the roots

of your own greed

and come to terms

with your power to transform it.

This may be the best way

to lead the world toward

greater moderation

and generosity.

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