Posts Tagged ‘let go’

Excerpt from: Living as a River by Bodhipaksa

In studies it has been found

that we frequently

try to find something unchanging and reliable

with which to identify,

something that acts like a secure island

in the midst of a river of change.

Often what we cling to is an


or a religious…identity,

or a sense of…belonging

to a group or nation.

This response is one of fear and clinging.

We see change around us and we’re afraid…

and we try to find something to cling to—

something more permanent and stable than ourselves.

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The first element – the power of thought.
Love begins with our thoughts.

We become what we think about.

Loving thoughts create loving
experiences and loving relationships.

Affirmations can change our beliefs and
thoughts about ourselves and others.

If we want to love someone, we need to
consider their needs and desires.

Thinking about your ideal partner will help
you recognize her when you meet her.

The second element – the power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything
unless you first respect them.

The first person you need to respect is yourself.

To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself,
“What do I respect about myself?”

To gain respect for others,
even those you may dislike, ask yourself
“What do I respect about them?”

The third element – the power of giving.
If you want to receive love,
all you have to do is give it!

The more love you give,
the more you will receive.

To love is to give of yourself,
freely and unconditionally..​.
Practice random acts of kindness.

Before committing to a relationship
ask not what the other person will
be able to give to you, but rather
what will you be able to give them.

The secret formula of a happy, lifelong,
loving relationship is to always focus on
what you can give instead of what you can take.

The fourth element – the power of friendship.
To find a true love,
you must first find a true friend.

Love does not consist of gazing
into each others eyes, but rather
looking outward together in the same direction.

To love someone completely you must
love them for who they are,
not what they look like.

Friendship is the soil through
which love’s seeds grow.

If you want to bring love into a relationship,
you must first bring friendship.

The fifth element – the power of touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love,
breaking down barriers and bonding relationships.

Touch changes our physical and emotional states
and makes us more receptive to love.

The sixth element – the power of letting go.
If you love something, let it free.

If it comes back to you it’s yours,
if it doesn’t it never was.

Even in a loving relationship,
people need their own space.

If we want to learn to love,
we must first learn to forgive and
let go of past hurts and grievances.

Love means letting go of our fears,
prejudices, egos and conditions.

“Today I let go of all my fears,
the past has no power over me –
today is the beginning of a new life.”

The seventh element – the power of communication.
When we learn to communicate
openly and honestly, life changes.

To love someone is to communicate with them.
Let the people you love know that you love them
and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say
those three magic words: “I Love You.”
Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.

Always leave someone you love with a loving word –
it could be the last time you see them.

If you were about to die but could make telephone calls
to the people you loved, who would you call,
what would you say and why are you waiting?

The eighth element – the power of commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance,
you must be committed to it,
and that commitment will be reflected
in your thoughts and actions.

Commitment is the true test of love.

If you want to have loving relationships,
you must be committed to loving relationships.

When you are committed to someone or something,
quitting is never an option.

Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship
from a strong one.

The ninth element – the power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive.

Lasting passion does not come
through physical attraction alone,
it comes from deep commitment,
enthusiasm, interest and excitement.

Passion can be recreated by recreating
past experiences when you felt passionate.

Spontaneity and surprises produce passion.

The essence of love and happiness are the same;
all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The tenth element – the power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships.

Without it one person becomes suspicious,
anxious and fearful and the other person feels
trapped and emotionally suffocated.

You cannot love someone completely
unless you trust them completely.

Act as if your relationship with the
person you love will never end.

One of the way in which always
you can tell whether a person is
right for you is to ask yourself,
“Do I trust them completely and unreservedly? “

If the answer is “no”, think carefully
before making a commitment.

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(thanks to Angel Love and Ovadose at MySpace)

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Learn and Let Flow
We Don’t Need To Suffer

The idea that we have to suffer or live in poverty

in order to be spiritual

is an old one

and can be found in the belief systems

of many philosophies.

Most of us carry this idea around subconsciously,

and we may be holding ourselves back

from financial or emotional well-being,

believing that this is what we must do

in order to be virtuous, spiritually awake,

or feel less guilty

for the suffering of others.

While it’s true

that there can be a spiritual purpose

to experiencing a lack of material well-being,

it is rarely intended to be a permanent

or lifelong experience.

What we are meant to find

when material or emotional resources

are in short supply is that

there is more to our lives than the physical realm.

Intense relationships and material abundance

can distract us

from the subtler realm of the spirit,

so a time of deficiency can be spiritually awakening.

However, once we recognize the realm of spirit,

and remember to hold it at the center of our lives,

there is no reason

to dwell in poverty or emotional isolation.

In fact,

once our connection to spirit is fully intact,

we feel so compelled to share our abundance

that lack becomes a thing of the past.

If you find that you are experiencing suffering

in some area of your physical life,

perhaps your spirit is asking you to look deeper

in your search for what you want.

For example, if you want money

so that you can experience the feeling of security

but money keeps eluding you,

your spirit may be asking you to understand

that security is not to be found through money.

Security comes from an unshakable connection to your soul.

Once you make that connection,

money will probably flow more easily into your life.

If relationships elude you,

your spirit may be calling you to recognize that

the love you seek is not to be found in another person.

And yet, ironically, once you find the love,

your true love may very well appear.

If you feel stuck in suffering to live a spiritual life,

try to spend some time writing about it.

The root of the problem will appear

and it may not be what you expected.

Remember, the Universe wants you to be happy.


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